What's the best way to get through a midlife crisis?

midlife crisis

buy a really fast car!! and if your not married, get a hot young blonde!!!
Wait awhile, then you will be just plain old.
don't know i'm 14 but good luck to you dude
When you get to the fork in the road, take it. (Yogi Berra)
Have fun and get over it.
Can you elaborate on what exactly a midlife crisis is?
How old do you have to be?
Keep in mind that life isnt a race but a journey. Try projecting yourself into the future .like youre 103, in a nursing home, gumming your food and looking back at your present age. Now think of what youll like to accomplish and go chase it.

Most of all, volunteer with Red Cross, Salvation Army or whatever. Best of luck - you can do it!! We are all counting on you.
It helped me to just look back and think how silly I was about life. Experience is a wonderful thing.
At 46 I realized I didn't like what I was doing anymore. I quit drinking and drugging, quit my job, sold my house, and moved to the country. I'm now 58 and I think I'm living my father's vacation.
When a friend asked me what my plans were, I said I hoped to get old and die. I'm happy.
Do NOT get a girlfriend
Do NOT buy that sportscar
Do NOT try to regain your youth - that is GONE
Do NOT try to change anything about yourself.
It's a rumor
Here is something that i got from a friend...it's a fwd. and a lil. long...but worth reading and re-reading... it's helped me a lot.. and hope it does the same for you...i know it's quarter-life but a lot of the concept are similar to some extent..
here you go...

"Being Twenty-Something"
They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Perhaps you love someone who doesn't love you back, or worse yet, loves someone else. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap.
Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for
yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
Send this to your twenty something friends. maybe it will help someone
feel like they aren't alone in their state of confusion..
Learn from how women should approach menopause
Start a drug habit.
Modern medicine knows that the heart-beat in a child is
faster than that of an adult. The pulse rate in a new
born baby is about 140 beats per minute. This pulse
rate gradually reduces and settles down to it's stable
value of 76 beats per minute after the age of 24 years.
Modern psychology knows that adolescents behave with
playful and 'what if' attitude, and adults find the
need to fit their reasoning into the dimensions of real
life. Modern medicine knows that muscular strength
peaks between the ages of 25 and 30. Modern
psychologists treat the period from 35 to 40 years as
mid-life crisis period.


Most of the people may not feel much during this
period. However for those few persons who experience
it's full intensity, it will be like a mini-death. Some
psychologists use the terminology 'fluid intelligence'
(flexible thoughts that are not much dependent on
culturally based content) which declines over the
period from young adult-hood to old age, and
'crystallized intelligence' (mastering the knowledge of
culture) which increased well into old age.

History knows that major inventions or innovations in
science were made by people after the age of 24, and
major achievement in philosophy, history or literature
after the age of 40.

The word 'flourit' means the age of flowering or
dawning of wisdom; it also means the age of 40. (See a
multi-volume dictionary in a library). Latin
philosophers like Empedocles (450 BC) used it. It is
also used in the sense of highest achievement.


Generally, the faculty of mind 'intellect' starts
funtcioning after the age of 40 years. Youngsters are
never called as intellectuals for this reason.

You can try meditation or Yoga to get through it.

You can write to me if you need more information.
(I will not accept any money):

Dr. V. Siva Prasad
Retired Professor of Engineering

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